In The Jolly Corner Henry James writes “Proportions and values were upside-down.” I underlined and boxed in this sentence when I first read it, as it felt a most concise and accurate way to describe our society today. More, bigger, me, mine. That, to a large degree, is who we are, not just as a society, but a species.

This is simply an opinion, of course, although one which most people I speak with agree. Let’s assume I am correct and that our proportions and values are upside-down. How do we bring about necessary positive change? The opposite view, I suppose, would be “Less, smaller, you, yours.” This seems an approach far more in line with appreciation, compassion, sustainability, and peace.

However, this is quite altruistic and therefore only a dream with no potential of wide acceptance, much less practice. So, how do take real, practical steps in this direction that will ultimately flip our proportions and values right side up? Are we, as a society and species, able to shift our world view from more to less? From me mindset to one that focuses on service to others? 

There is only one person we are in control of. Therefore, any change we wish to see in the world begins with us. Aspire to live simply and with humility. To treat people with respect. To be kind and help others. This is not as easy as it sounds. It takes extraordinary devotion. Mental and emotional rigor. Again and again we will be tested, and so we must make it our deepest desire and mission in life to be a light in the world.

Wake each day and before you rise from bed say a prayer for guidance to this end. Then set about your day with a quiet resolve to influence by way of action. To set a positive example that others will follow. To lift the spirits of others. That, I believe, is the best we can do.

“Display those virtues that are wholly in your own power — integrity, dignity, hard work, self-denial, contentment, frugality, kindness, independence, simplicity, discretion, magnanimity.”  —Marcus Aurelius